The only admission to make, for any person, is yes, there is a desire to be noticed. How could anyone rightly say no, especially when there is no way of really knowing until one does whatever necessary to halt the desire? And what is the only sure way to halt a desire to be noticed--or at least to prove one way or another if it is there or not?
The antidote to desire to be noticed is to simply not be noticed.
Of course, we must explain with some discussion. The greatest circumstance for being noticed is by those who recognize us from our presence physically among them, with some aspect of knowing--such as a name, a face, a position, activity, or more. Yet, it is among our most intimate family members (with exception of children who vie for attention among siblings and parents) and friends of longest duration that the desire to be noticed seems immune. We just are as we are with these...barring those mentally ill who crave attention and notice even within the inner circle.
Wearing garb that stands out--colors and fashion so very unique, individual, or ritualistic as to be eye-catching and identifiable--cannot qualify in the passing unnoticed test. Being exceptional in negative ways--of crime or acting out against the norms in ways noticeable--is sure to be noticed.
Excesses in eating, too much or too little, bring notice in body size. The same occurs in speech: too much, too loud, too little, too soft. So it goes in any number of situations in which we could be noticed beyond simply being repetitively recognized.
Again, some situations of being noticed may not be within our control. These are few, however, once a person determines decisively to snuff any suspect desire to be noticed by simple removal of all that causes notice, including locations in which one is recognized--especially if that notice is deemed a problem or flaw. Yet, very few actually have the opportunity to limit or eradicate or even test the desire to be noticed. But most if not everyone can test it at least for a brief experiment.
In worship, one can be unnoticed for the most part, by changing location, and within location by change of seating area, or worship times, and frequency. If by some odd chance something befalls to create notice beyond one's control, then there may be removal, beyond one's control. If one is yet charged to delete any lurking desire to be noticed and all other means to remain unnoticed have been utilized (appearance and behavior), then one can eliminate other possible situations of recognition, of being noticed. It may seem extreme, but rooting out desire to be noticed is rather an extreme process.
What are signs of proof, after one has done all to pass unnoticed and God has removed even by atypical means the possibility of being noticed, that one does not desire to be noticed? It seems that one sign is that willingness of the person to be unnoticed, to accept the circumstances of removal. Another indication could be that of heightened focus in prayer, spiritual reading, absorption in His
Real Presence in the Word and all Sacraments, thanksgiving, as well as in daily, temporal tasks. A true spirit of holy indifference and spiritual detachment from self occurs; and with it comes a sense of freedom in the Trinity that brings a peace to the soul.
Another proof is that one thoroughly loves not being noticed and realizes it even loathed notice.
Having the opportunity to stop being noticed brings with it a freedom not experienced in the temporal realm, not even in the visible church. The freedom brings the soul to the immolation of self required for mystical union, even if for short embraces now and then with the Divine.
Note: To cease writing and sharing writing is one point of being noticed, even if the writer is anonymous. The sharing of thoughts if read by others repetitively, or the same readers to a point of recognizing the sequence and style of prose, could be a type of notice. Does the subconscious or conscious have a desire that the writings are noticed? What is the test--to cease writing? Or, cease comment availability and thus not know if the writing is being read; be as in a supermarket venue in which if noticed, it is beyond one's control? Or, if negative comments, do they assist in the self-annihilation, the death to any lurking desire to be noticed? There may be other aspects of being noticed that one does not notice in the realm of note but to pray for fool-proofs.